Modification - Changes to a Parenting Schedule

Adjusting the parenting schedule to accommodate changes in circumstances is an essential aspect of effective co-parenting. Whether for short-term events or long-term modifications, flexibility and communication are key.

One-time or Short-term Modification to Parenting Schedule

When a parent desires to make a one-time or short-term temporary change in the parenting time schedule, such as for special occasions or family events, the other parent should typically  cooperate to the extent possible, considering the children's needs. It is crucial that the parent requesting the change does not inform the children until an agreement is reached to avoid unnecessary confusion or disappointment. Effective communication between parents is essential when requesting short-term changes. Parents should provide as much notice as possible and discuss the proposed changes openly. Consent to allow the children to attend these events should not be unreasonably withheld, as cooperation helps maintain a positive co-parenting relationship and supports the children's involvement in important family activities. Participating in special events like weddings or family reunions can help the children form good relationships with extended family and feel more secure and loved. At the same time, neither party should abuse this flexibility in requesting these modifications more than a reasonable amount. Regular parenting time should take preference to maintain stability and consistency, but special events should also be considered.

Long-term or Permanent Modification to Parenting Schedule

Long-term or permanent modifications to the parenting schedule may be necessary due to significant changes in circumstances, such as a parent relocating, a change in work schedules, or as the children grow older and their needs evolve. Parents commonly consider these modifications when one parent or the children request such consideration, during a specified period (e.g., every year), or when the children reach a certain age. Some states have a presumptive age when children can choose their own parenting schedule. Once the children or one parent requests a review, then you should work together to try and adjust the parenting time schedule.

If you can agree on a long-term or permanent modification, some jurisdictions allow you to just record the change in writing, signed and dated by each parent, or you may want to execute a stipulation and file it with the Court. This formal documentation ensures clarity and legal recognition of the new arrangement.

If one parent desires a permanent or long-term temporary modification and the parents cannot agree, then the parents likely need to pursue an alternative method to try and resolve this dispute.  This may involve mediation, arbitration, or other dispute resolution methods to reach a mutually acceptable solution. Any decision to modify the Parenting Time Schedule, even temporarily, must be made based on what is best for the children. This includes considering their routine, emotional well-being, and any potential impact on their daily activities and stability.

Handling both short-term and long-term modifications to the parenting schedule requires cooperation, communication, and a focus on the best interests of the children. By following the outlined procedures and maintaining flexibility, parents can navigate changes effectively and ensure that their co-parenting arrangement continues to support the well-being and stability of their children.