Parenting

Communication and Information Exchange

Learn best practices for sharing information, protecting children from parental conflicts and maintaining positive communication.

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Module Notes

Effective communication and the exchange of information are foundational to successful co-parenting after divorce.

Communication

Clear and respectful communication between parents ensures that important information about the children's welfare is shared promptly, fostering a cooperative and supportive environment.

When communicating with your co-parent, consider the following:

Stay Focused on the Present and Future
Problem-Solving Approach: Focus on solutions rather than problems
One Issue at a Time
Respectful Interaction: Speak respectfully, avoid interruptions, and refrain from using critical, disrespectful, or hurtful language or body language
Avoid "Button-Pushing" Statements
Use "I" Statements: Express concerns using "I" statements to convey feelings without blaming the other parent
Shift Negative Conversations

Typically advised that neither parent should talk with the children about any aspect of the parents' separation or divorce, except to reassure them that both parents support each other in continued parenting and are working towards the best arrangements for the children.

Exchange of Information

Many jurisdictions have requirements on communication and disclosure in order to make sure both parents have full access to all relevant information about the children.

To ease this disclosure, each parent shall provide directly to the other parent, as soon as possible after receipt, any and all of the following information about the children, unless alternative arrangements have been made for such information to be provided by a third party:

School Report Cards and Evaluations
School Calendars and Notices
Disciplinary Notifications
Medical, Dental, and Psychological Information
Medication Information
Insurance Information
Religious Training and Participation
Activity Schedules and Evaluations

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